Are you struggling when crafting dating app profile? You understand that straightforward descriptions lack appeal, but you’re unsure of the right approach. Below, I’ll provide you with three strategies to make your profiles more eye-catching.
Some Vulnerabiliy
Various labels and societal norms often dictate what success should look like, what men should do, and what women shouldn’t do. Those who excel within this framework maximize socially acceptable traits to the fullest. However, this contradicts human nature; ultimately, people yearn to be themselves.
Revealing our vulnerabilities beyond the glossy facade is highly attractive. When others see our authenticity, they can imagine themselves without masks in our presence, feeling understood and safe.
Everyone is striving for success or an interesting persona, but constant exposure to these can lead to fatigue. Just like the psychological concept of the pratfall effect, imperfect individuals are more likable. Traits must encompass both positives and negatives to be truly authentic. Similar to a job interview where one fails to mention any flaws after boasting about strengths for half an hour, trust becomes difficult to establish.
Vulnerability can stem from fear of external factors like darkness, thunder, or bugs, or internal vulnerabilities like being emotional, easily moved, or soft-hearted. Positive vulnerabilities include susceptibility to smiles, shirts, or high heels. Whichever can trigger the reader’s emotion or convey sense of humor.
However, vulnerability must be accompanied by a polished image; otherwise, it could backfire and portray weakness. Except for certain domineering personalities, no one is attracted to pure weakness.
Constrast
You’ve probably heard of “Gap moe”, where characteristics, behavior, or appearance defy expectations. Here, the goal is to create contrast, not for cuteness, but to portray a multifaceted personality, enhancing the richness of character and leaving a distinct impression.
Contrast can be expressed through text. “It terrifies me when I have everything but no one to share the joy with.” “Not a talkative person but like to babby talk with lover.”
Contrast can also be portrayed through text and images, such as a photo of a man in branded outfit who’s engaged in volunteer work, helping with the poor. Or a feminine-looking girl who is an engineer and enjoys boxing, finishing friends’ meal when they are full. These discrepancies pique curiosity, making it easier to start a conversation.
It will be even easier to convey contrast with pure images. A cute and sweet photo with other cool looking photo(appearance contrast). Friends gathering photo with a reading photo(movement and sedantary contrast). A fierced-look tattooed guy plays the piano well(Behavior contrast).
Juxtaposing abilities with psychological states, or behavior shifts between different contexts.
Imaginative Guiding
Apart from creating contrast, paint a promising picture of what will the future be if you two are together. Give your potential matches a vision of how you would treat them. A conventional answer won’t leave a memorable impression; adding a dash of humor and exaggeration is ideal.
For example, saying “I’ll make my boyfriend fat” initiates a playful dialogue, instantly bringing the other person into the role of “my boyfriend.” However, this might not be suitable for male profiles, as most women wouldn’t be excited about their boyfriends making them fat.
A guy could say, “I treat my girlfriend like a princess,” but to make it believable, provide brief anecdotes of spoiling her.
For a more artistic touch, you could say, “If you love to cuddle between every chapter, contact me.”
By adding details and imagery to your ideal date is a good topic to show how an interesting person you are. Don’t just say you will wake up late and Netflix all day. Say like waking up next to your partner and going hand in hand to a nearby café for a hearty breakfast, where you give her the first bite of steak while she picks the onions onto her plate.
Make your information into a story, leaving a lasting impression. You don’t need to be perfect; show your true self, express your core values and uniqueness to attract someone who genuinely fits you.
Now that you know what to write, let’s discuss what not to write in the next article.
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